Unsolicited Advice
Generally I dislike receiving lists of advice, so I’m a little embarrassed to be offering one. I wrote this list in response to an email sent to me with a lot of (mostly Christian) suggestions that I didn’t particularly care for. Obviously this list only reflects my own personal values and preferences. Also, as far as I’m concerned, this is open source, so feel free to send any of it along. If you are so inspired, please feel free to add your own pearls of wisdom in the comments…
1) Develop mindful gratitude and express it often
2) Get enough sleep, eat well, and exercise regularly
3) Find beauty and joy in simple, every-day things
4) Practice courtesy, even in the face of rudeness
5) Read more
6) Make time for pleasures that enrich your life
7) Always be learning how to do something new
8] Don’t waste your time with people you don’t respect, but be willing to know people who seem different from you
9) Before passing judgment, remember that there is always more than meets the eye
10) Cultivate wonder and curiosity; be open to new knowledge but avoid credulousness
11) Look out for patterns that keep you stuck; growth requires going outside your comfort zone from time to time
12) Think for yourself; develop your ability to question and reason
13) Occasionally write down your life goals and best imagined future; research shows this is associated with increased health and well-being
14) It’s okay to get your needs met, but let go of any sense of entitlement; it’s healthier to think in terms of what you can offer rather than what you are owed
15) Be serious-minded but light-hearted; protect yourself from both bitterness and sanctimoniousness
16) Always be honest, loyal, and true to yourself and your word. Always.
17) Every now and then, reassess your own values, beliefs, and goals
18) Build the courage to face your fears and to take full responsibility for your life
19) Do your part to fulfill our role as stewards of the Earth
20) Make a difference—do what you can to reduce suffering and increase fairness, opportunity, prosperity, and freedom in the world
Take time for quiet contemplation
Think before you speak
Argue the position but respect the person
Treat others as they wish to be treated